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I’m thankful anyway . . .

November 27, 2025 4 comments

Well, it’s Thanksgiving Day, and I’m sitting here with four stitches in my mouth after having some unexpected dental surgery. No, the timing isn’t great—I’ll only be eating soft foods today—but I’m thankful anyway.

While Thanksgiving Day has morphed into being much about food, football, and family, and less about THE ONE who provided it, that doesn’t have to be the case. Being thankful is an individual choice. YOU make the decision about whether to express your gratitude for the bountiful blessings you’ve been given, and you can do that no matter what your circumstances are today.

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” I Thessalonians 5:18

I don’t know what your circumstances are, but here’s a short list of things I have encountered personally or counseled with others who have had to face these circumstances. There are always things to be thankful for . . . anyway.

  1. Chronic pain or illness — even while managing daily discomfort, you can be thankful for skilled doctors, small improvements, or the strength God gives to endure.

  2. Financial strain — when the budget is tight, you can still be grateful for daily provision, a friend’s generosity, or unexpected reminders of God’s care.

  3. Loneliness — in seasons when relationships feel distant, you can be thankful for God’s presence, moments of connection, or the hope of new friendships.

  4. Grief after losing someone — even in sorrow, you can be thankful for the memories, the love shared, and the comfort God provides.

  5. Waiting for answers or direction — in uncertainty, you can thank God for His wisdom, His timing, and the doors He will eventually open or close.

  6. Family conflict — though painful, you can be grateful for opportunities to grow in patience, forgiveness, and grace.

  7. Workplace stress — even when tasks pile up or tensions rise, you can be thankful for meaningful work, supportive coworkers, and God’s sustaining help.

  8. A difficult diagnosis — you can have gratitude for compassionate medical staff, treatment options, or the peace God gives when the future feels overwhelming.

  9. Unexpected disappointments — when plans fall apart, you can still be thankful for God’s protection, His redirection, and the lessons tucked inside the setback.

  10. A strained or uncertain future — even when nothing feels secure, you can be thankful for God’s promises, His faithfulness in the past, and the hope He guarantees for tomorrow.

“Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!” Psalm 107:1

Are You Prepared?

October 26, 2025 Leave a comment

One day—although it’s probably happened to you already—you’ll experience disappointment, loss, suffering, hurt, betrayal, or a number of other painful situations you didn’t anticipate would come your way.

Even though you may have thought you were prepared for every possible hardship a human being can have, there’s a good possibility a situation will arise that will surprise you—something you weren’t prepared for, something you never imagined would happen.

Thankfully, God has graciously instructed His followers how to respond when difficulties come our way.

First, He tells us to expect difficulties:
“Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you.” 1 Peter 4:12.

Difficulties and hardships aren’t strange. They happen to every human being on the planet, including followers of Jesus Christ.

Second, learn from difficulties:
. . . you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 1:6-7.

In His infinite wisdom, God allows us to suffer various hardships in order to test the “genuineness” of our faith. Although we may not understand His purpose for it until we walk through the portals of Heaven, we can be assured He designed it for our ultimate good.

Third, recognize our difficulties won’t last forever:
“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” 1 Peter 5:10.

We won’t be in this difficult situation forever. There is an end to it—whether in this life or in death.

Lastly, rejoice in difficulties:
 In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials.” 1 Peter 1:6.

Rejoicing when we experience trials doesn’t mean we aren’t grieving or hurting. It means in our prayers and by our testimony, we are trusting God, giving Him glory, and relying on His goodness during our suffering.

Therefore, let those who suffer according to God’s will, entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.” 1 Peter 4:19.

Be prepared to suffer. In doing so, you will honor and glorify our Lord, “. . . who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross . . .” Hebrews 12:2.

I’m Not Able

April 21, 2025 1 comment

When someone makes the statement, “I’m not able,” it can be an admission of weakness, but it can also be an admission of faith.

When a person realizes they’re not able to stand before God as blameless, they’re not expressing weakness; they’re validating the truth of Romans 3:23:  “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”

But that’s not the full story. Even though everyone has sinned, Hebrews 7:25 tells us that Jesus, the Son of God, is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God.”

And there’s this from Jude 24, where the writer says that Jesus “is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy.”

Admitting I am not able to deliver myself from my sins, nor appear before God as blameless, is an expression of faith, and accepting the truth that He is able—by means of His sacrificial death—to accomplish it, is a confession of that faith.

But that’s still not the full story. In 1 Timothy 4:12, the apostle Paul says,  “I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard until that day what has been entrusted to me.”

And lastly, from Hebrews 2:18:  “For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.”

I am not able, but God is able.

He is able to save those who come to Him.

He is able to keep you from stumbling.

He is able to present you as blameless.

He is able to guard you.

He is able to help you in temptation.

As the apostle Paul urges us in Ephesians 3:20-21, we give Him glory for He is able.

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”

A Most Unusual Christmas

December 7, 2024 Leave a comment

No matter what age you are, you probably have a Christmas tale about a sad Christmas, one that didn’t go exactly as planned, one that was disappointing, one that was so sorrowful you can’t think about it without the tears flowing.

Or you may have a Christmas tale about a happy Christmas, one where someone surprised you with an unexpected gift, one where you reconciled with a loved one, one where everyone loved the gifts you bought them, or one where you had enough money to buy someone the gift they wanted but didn’t think they’d get.

Some of you may even have a Christmas tale about an unusual Christmas, one where events unfolded in a non-traditional way, so much so that you can remember the circumstances as if they happened yesterday.

I’ve had all of the above, and although space—and my introverted personality—doesn’t lend itself to reciting the details of each situation, here’s a partial list of my most unusual Christmases.

  • A Christmas morning when a family member had a kidney stone, and we had to spend the entire day in the ER.

  • A Christmas when an ice storm struck so no family members were able to make it to our house to participate in our gift-giving and holiday meal together.

  • A Christmas Day when my husband, young daughter, and I had to travel to a foreign country where we would be living for the next three years—a frightening and very lonely day.

  • A Christmas Eve when I had to call an ambulance for my husband, who thought he was having a heart attack. In the ER, we learned it was acute pancreatitis, and he ended up spending the next three months hooked up to an IV.

Although it may be hard to believe, I could list several more unusual Christmases during my lifetime. But strangely enough, in all of these circumstances, I found peace by focusing on the most unusual day in all of human history—the First Christmas Day—the day God arrived on planet Earth in a human body.

It was a day like no other day, an unusual day, a unique day, a day we should celebrate even if our Christmas Day ends up being sad, happy, or unusual.

Jesus tells us why in His own words. “I have come into the world as light, so that whoever believes in me may not remain in darkness.” John 12:46.

Choose to Chuckle

November 10, 2024 1 comment

During our college days, my husband and I befriended Benjamin, a student from Lagos, Nigeria, who traveled halfway around the world to attend a Baptist college in East Texas after becoming a believer through the witness of some Baptist missionaries.

Benjamin, who was the son of a tribal witch doctor, was at least fifteen years older than we were, and he seemed much wiser. His wisdom came from years of lived experiences, and he wasn’t shy about sharing those stories with us, something we encouraged him to do whenever we invited him to have a meal with us.

Decades later, many of his stories still have an impact on my life, primarily because the culture he grew up in was so different from my own, so consequently, his perspective caused me to look at the world and my faith through a different lens.

One of my favorite stories was the one he told us about the time he and his best friend were on their way to another village and were attempting to cross a flooded river. He described the difficulty he had in making it across, and then he told us how anxious he felt when he saw his friend fighting the current, eventually going under, but then emerging a little later and grabbing a tree branch along the riverbank.

Benjamin began laughing as he got to this part of the story, so we assumed it had a happy ending, but then he said, “But as God would have it, the branch broke off, and my friend drowned.”   

When we questioned him about why he laughed even though he must have felt sad at the loss of his friend, he said, “In my culture, when something is so sad that you can’t cry about it, then we choose to laugh. Choosing to laugh will eventually overcome your sadness.”

I’ve often remembered Benjamin’s advice during difficult periods in my life, and each time I’ve followed his advice and chosen laughter to get me through the rough patch, I’ve always found it made the situation better.

I was reminded of this as I was reading some verses from the Bible this week about joy, and I came across some similar advice from the writer of Proverbs.

Proverbs 17:22 says, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

Are you going through a hard time?
Choose to chuckle.
I believe you’ll find it’s good medicine.

Need Comfort?

October 7, 2024 Leave a comment

Body language experts are on the news a lot these days. Because it’s an election season, they’re asked to interpret the subtle, nonverbal cues that give insight into a political candidate’s feelings.

One particular observation got my attention recently, because I had never heard anyone put a name to certain gestures a speaker makes, like clutching hands together, putting hands to the face, or massaging an arm. Body language experts call these “comfort gestures.”

Such actions serve to soothe the speaker and indicate the person is feeling anxious, stressed, or uncertain. One expert says that everyone has these “self-comforting movements,” which we all engage in many times during our day.

Although we may not be aware of how often we feel the need to comfort ourselves, the Bible is full of verses that address our universal need for comfort. I immediately thought of several, which made me curious, so I did an internet search and discovered over 100 verses that either mention comfort directly or describe how God provides comfort to us. Bible verses that speak of how God comforts us.

Here’s one of my favorites: “Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word.”
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17.

This verse tells me that Jesus Christ himself will comfort our hearts, and He does so on the basis of His love for us, a love that caused him to give “his life for us, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16.

Now that’s comforting!